1. Your purpose is not a job title
In fact, your purpose is not a job at all. It can be expressed in your work, though. Your purpose is deeper than a job – it is about your soul nature. It is about who you are at the very heart of your being, beyond the conditioning of society and the desires of our ego to fit in and conform.
2. ‘You’ do not want to find your purpose
We all have an ego – and we need it. Your ego is that part of you that thinks it IS you (the voice that, right now, is going ‘But I AM you!) – and its aim, above all else, is to ensure that you stay safe, secure and accepted by society.
Your ego is happy to keep living the way we are taught to live: studying, getting a stable job, building up financial security, and so on.
3. Your desire for purpose is spiritual in nature
The desire for purpose and meaning in life comes from your soul. If you prefer, you could say it’s from your ‘real’ self, your higher self, your intuition, the universe, God, or life.
Whichever of these resonates for you, what they all have in common is that the urge to know why we are here comes from something deeper; something below the surface of ordinary life.
4. You can’t find your purpose by thinking about it
Or at least, not only by thinking about it.
Following on from points 2 and 3, you can see why thinking about things logically isn’t that helpful when it comes to finding your soul purpose. Thinking comes from the mind and the ego, which wants you to stay safe and comfortable.
Have you ever had an excited urge to do something brave, or that didn’t seem logical or sensible, and then immediately squished it with thoughts like: ‘That’s a silly idea’, ‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘I don’t know enough’?
That’s your ego trying to keep you safe. That’s a good thing, but to find your true purpose you’ll need to access other ways of receiving guidance and also learn to reassure your ego. Other ways of accessing guidance can include visualisation, free writing, painting, daydreaming and spending time in nature, to name just a few.
5. ‘Purpose’ is not the right word to describe your purpose
As soon as you try to pin down your purpose, things can get tricky. The truth is that there is no one word that perfectly expresses this deep spiritual dimension of our lives. Your ‘purpose’ actually describes many things, including your unique gifts and talents, your message, your contribution to life, your particular essence, specific tasks that you might carry out at different stages in life and the lessons you have learned on your unique life journey.
6. Many people start to want to find their purpose in mid life
We live our lives the way we were taught to. We may have great success, a more or less happy life and solid achievements. And then at some point, something drives us to question how we have lived and what we have done. We realise the time remaining is limited, and we ask ‘ is this it?’
7. You can’t find your purpose ‘out there’
It’s impossible to understand your soul purpose without first becoming aware of who you really are at your core – beneath the conditioning of society, the defences and beliefs you have developed as a result of past hurts and events, and the fears of our ego. To discover who you really are, you need to look within (it’s really not that scary, I promise).
8. Being in nature can help you know yourself and your purpose
In modern society, we are disconnected from an essential part of our nature – the part of us that knows we are a part of nature. We cannot really know ourselves without restoring our connection to nature. When we spend time in nature we connect to our roots, and to our real mother – the Earth. Go out into nature with a question and look for signs. You’ll be amazed at the answers you receive.
9. Not living an authentic life is the no. 1 regret of dying people
In the ‘Top 5 regrets of the dying’ by Bronnie Wrare, the most common regret of dying people was ‘I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.’
Bonnie Wrare writes:
‘This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.’
10. To begin, set an intention to find your soul purpose
If you’re feeling daunted or overwhelmed, I get it.
Don’t worry; you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. Even if you discover your true purpose, you’re in control of the action you take, and you can go at your own pace. You don’t have to change anything about your life.
But you wouldn’t have read this far if you weren’t ready for something deeper. Begin gently, by simply setting an intention to find your soul purpose. An intention is a commitment to yourself and your soul/the universe/life. Just:
- Take a few moments in silence to speak your intention to yourself to find your purpose
- Remind yourself of your intention every day
- Begin to open to the idea that your life has real purpose and meaning
- Take notice of signs and of your intuition
- Begin to listen to what your inner voice has to say, and notice when it tries to convince you not to make changes
- Remember that the louder the inner voice gets, the more you may be onto something!
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